I think it is the Ronnie thing that confuses me the most, if only because it illustrates how incredibly one-note her characters are.

The woman has been Anita's best friend for years and knows her crap inside out and somehow, magically, their argument has Anita winning without Ronnie putting up much of a fight.
Maybe it is just my screwed up friends and I, but you start to have a fight like that, it is going to get dirty pretty quickly. The idea that Ronnie could not illuminate Anita as the worst kind of hypocrite is laughable.

Anita calling anybody homophobic is painful--especially, in light of how much she has tortured Asher and Jean-Claude.