Yeah, that's another thing that bugged me with LKH's view on BDSM-all sex, all the time. Reminds me of a fanfic where a guy had his submissive always naked when in the house, always wearing a collar that couldn't be removed, and always wearing a butt plug/dildo/vibrator/whatever shoved up his ass.

I've never actually seen anyone portray BDSM in a realistic way in a novel. I wonder if such a thing exists?