I definitely agree with this, it seems like deep down, LKH does like these things but despite her REPEATED claims of being comfortable with the darkity dark darkness in her head, she still has some hangups abotu the things she's into when it comes to sex (perhaps said repeated claims are a case of the lady protesting too much?). That whole "ooh, I want this, but it's bad, so I shouldn't want it" hence the plot devices to force the women to have sex. That way she can write all the sex she wants, the characters can have all the sex they want, and neither she nor the characters have to face the fact that they enjoy these things because omgz it's not HER, it the ARDUEREUR