Haha, waaaaay back in the day when I started writing graphic scenes, I found a fabulous place called Minotaur's sex tips for slash writers, written by a gay man for the express purpose of helping out the slashers who aren't exactly able to duplicate what they're writing.

I remember that site. I never wrote slash - and can admit now that I wrote bad hetero smut, too - but I visited that site on a fairly regular basis for some reason. It might have had something to do with the pictures. ^_^