I understand that LKH lost her mother when she was very young, and that it's probably hard for her to cope with death for this reason.

But extending that to fictional characters just indicates that this woman is completely out of touch with reality. Sure, I've cried during emotional scenes or deaths in books, but then I move on with my life because I understand that these people are not real. It's just further evidence that LKH is using her books as some kind of catharsis, but that it's really not working to help her cope with anything at all, hence the repetetive wangsting and wish-fulfillment in each book.