Hmm. As much as LKH is an annoying and insane loon, it's probably an issue many women have today. You want your own autonomy and sometimes that can end up being at the expense of your partner's. Clearly she wants a man who does what he's told, and has worked out in her mind that if she's a "Dominant" then it's not bullying or abuse, it's OK. Never mind that in a D/s relationship the person in charge is really supposedly the sub.