"Ronnie is being the best friend she can be to someone who is in trouble. Ronnie may have her own commitment issues and Anita wants to see that so she won't have to look at herself. Richard is a monster that he doesn't want to be. He hates what he is. Yes, he doesn't like Anita being comfortable with monsters because to him they are evil, not just not human, evil."

I think Ronnie, Richard and Dolph are the only ones who see what Anita has become, but I think the commitment issues, self-loathing, and irrationality are purely character-assassination by the author in defense of her avatar, just like Richard and Ronnie's "triple-digits".

What Richard hated about being a monster in the early books (and for the most part even the later ones), was the tyranny and abuse of supernatural society. Anita once paid lip-service to the same belief, but only until she was at the top of the heap. She can't abide the thought that she is the evil she once claimed to fight, so Richard is retconned along with Ronnie and Dolph.