Not that LKH is necessarily privy to such things, but some people do allow very OTT flailing at funerals. I went to a tangi once (Maori funeral) of a person who had died from cancer in late middle age - his death was very expected - and there was a great deal of hysteria at the funeral even *after* the whole two days of sitting with him, people coming in and crying deal. In truth, I think it's probably very good for people to be culturally allowed to go crazy-mad. Gets it all out.