While I don't agree that brute force is inherently male or that cunning is inherently female, I do agree that society seems to see it that way, and the view tends to be that "stereotypically feminine" equals weak and "stereotypically masculine" equals strong. And that's just not right, and result in, as you said, the idea that there's no way a woman can be strong without being stereotypically masculine, and this idea is very dangerous, since women are brought up in our society to fear seeming "masculine" at all cost, for it is presented as unattractive on a female in media when it isn't "glorified" as in the case of Anita, and women are told that being attractive in our culture matters above all else for their sex. Even the "strong" women out there have to always be sexy first. In other words the message seems to be "You can't be strong unless you adhere to these traits which we have told you are male....and thus make you ugly, which you should never ever be!"

So, in others words...in order to be "attractive" and "feminine" you also have to be weak. And I don't buy that. A hyper-feminine ass-kicker of either gender is very much needed.