I’d found several men who loved me for being the stubborn, messy, violent, sexually-aggressive woman that I am.

Except she's not sexually-aggressive at all. Everyone else is always making her decisions for her/holding her in place/etc. She has an aggressive, dominating personality, but she's not sexually aggressive.

I can't believe I even cared enough to type that. Except yeah, LKH gets sex wrong and makes it boring. Also why wasn't this an entire chapter of just Jean-Claude and Asher banging? Give the people* what they really want!

*Both the audience AND Jean-Claude and Asher.