Poly has only one real rule, everyone is supposed to know what everyone is doing, or who they're doing. No lying, no cheating, but just communication of epic proportions. If you're prone to jealousy, please do not attempt poly. If you want to sleep with other people, do not bully your spouse into being poly with you, if you aren't so much poly as just wanting to fuck-about.

"Communication of epic proportions" does not mean everyone pitches in to make one person feel like the special-est ever. It means everyone talks so that everyone can be comfortable (which I'm sure she thinks her characters do...)

Still rolling about everything else - does she even read her own work? Or is it just that different in her head?