I have seen people just use "poly" as shorthand for any occurrence of "polyamorous" ("book on poly").
And the line between swinging and polyamory can be a lot blurrier than a lot of people think - there are plenty of people that move in both groups. My MAIN issue with swinging isn't the emphasis on casual encounters, but it's very hetero couple dominant and cis-centric. It's "OK" for cis women to explore their sexuality with other women (allowing cis men such as their husbands to watch or join in), but cis male on male sexuality is generally frowned upon. I've also not seen a great deal of trans or genderqueer acceptance at swinger's parties, so I tend not to go to them.
The best advice I've seen on poly has been "Talk, a lot. Take care of your health. Respect boundaries. When you fuck up, suck it up and apologize. And mean it." Pretty good relationship advice in general :)
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And the line between swinging and polyamory can be a lot blurrier than a lot of people think - there are plenty of people that move in both groups. My MAIN issue with swinging isn't the emphasis on casual encounters, but it's very hetero couple dominant and cis-centric. It's "OK" for cis women to explore their sexuality with other women (allowing cis men such as their husbands to watch or join in), but cis male on male sexuality is generally frowned upon. I've also not seen a great deal of trans or genderqueer acceptance at swinger's parties, so I tend not to go to them.
The best advice I've seen on poly has been "Talk, a lot. Take care of your health. Respect boundaries. When you fuck up, suck it up and apologize. And mean it." Pretty good relationship advice in general :)