If you want to sleep with other people, do not bully your spouse into being poly with you, if you aren't so much poly as just wanting to fuck-about.
I totally misunderstood the message because of the way that the sentences were constructed. For example, the one above is REDUNDANT and composed of two IF-THEN statements, one straight up and the other reversed.
IF you want to sleep with other people ----> THEN don't bully your spouse into being poly with you.
THEN don't bully your spouse into being poly with you <----- IF you aren't so much poly as just wanting to sleep around.
The sentiments are more or less the same, of course, (that one shouldn't bully's one's spouse into trying polyamory if all one wants is to be unfaithful) but there's the implication to me that it might be okay to (at least try to) bully your spouse into being poly if you're poly. But, judging by the previous comments, she meant to say no infidelity and no bullying, regardless of the circumstances.
....this is why I read her books via sporks. Even when I read them first hand, I often had trouble figuring out what was going on, much less why it was going on.
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I totally misunderstood the message because of the way that the sentences were constructed. For example, the one above is REDUNDANT and composed of two IF-THEN statements, one straight up and the other reversed.
IF you want to sleep with other people ----> THEN don't bully your spouse into being poly with you.
THEN don't bully your spouse into being poly with you <----- IF you aren't so much poly as just wanting to sleep around.
The sentiments are more or less the same, of course, (that one shouldn't bully's one's spouse into trying polyamory if all one wants is to be unfaithful) but there's the implication to me that it might be okay to (at least try to) bully your spouse into being poly if you're poly. But, judging by the previous comments, she meant to say no infidelity and no bullying, regardless of the circumstances.
....this is why I read her books via sporks. Even when I read them first hand, I often had trouble figuring out what was going on, much less why it was going on.