Facebook flog - Oct 15 2013

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Link: Oct 15 2013, 5:42
Disclaimer: This blog entry is verbatim, as originally posted on LKH's Facebook. Copyright belongs to Ma Petite Enterprises.

I wished our girlfriend, yes Jon and I are date-dating her, a happy Goth Chick Appreciation Day, yesterday. I thought I'd mentioned we had a girlfriend on FB, from the responses, apparently not. I've mentioned it on twitter, and as other comments noted on my RIDDIT interview this year. If it had been Goth Boy Appreciation Day I'd have wished my husband, and over lovers, current, and past good tidings of their holiday, but it was Goth Chick Appreciation Day, so . . .

No, I'm not bisexual, if I was she wouldn't be the first girlfriend I'd ever had. Jon and I like the term Heteroflexible.

No, I've never tried to date as many people as Anita dates. 5 was my max and it was too many to give emotional support and care, or time, to everyone.

Before someone asks, NO, none of the people I've dated past, or present have been used as basis for my fictional characters - note the word fictional.

Polyamorous means to love more, and yes it is a weird mix of Greek and Latin, but it has become widely accepted, so that's the term. Poly has only one real rule, everyone is supposed to know what everyone is doing, or who they're doing. No lying, no cheating, but just communication of epic proportions. If you're prone to jealousy, please do not attempt poly. If you want to sleep with other people, do not bully your spouse into being poly with you, if you aren't so much poly as just wanting to fuck-about. Please keep your cheating asses off our polyamory, and don't blame the fact you can't keep it in your pants on us. And no, we are not swingers, that's a different alternative lifestyle. What's swinging? Google it. You can google Polyamory, too, but don't believe everything you read. (That goes for anything you research on line.)

Comments

[jessica collett (from livejournal.com)]

'No, I'm not bisexual, if I was she wouldn't be the first girlfriend I'd ever had'

Not going to argue sexual identities here (because.... everyone has a right to sexually identify in whatever way they want) but that sentence just grates. You can identify as bisexual and not have dated a woman before. It's not as if people go 'I am now bisexual!' and immediately latch themselves onto a suitable member of the same gender. You might not know you could be attracted to people of your gender until you meet someone that sparks the realisation in you. It comes off as extremely defensive and dismissive of bisexuality, which is just wonderful. Really inclusive. Not judgemental at all.

'Jon and I like the term Heteroflexible.'

I don't like the word hetroflexible. It seems to be a way of saying you like being with girls (in this instance) without catching the cooties that come from openly and honestly being attracted to women.

[lliira (from livejournal.com)]

Not going to argue sexual identities here (because.... everyone has a right to sexually identify in whatever way they want) but that sentence just grates.

I wonder how many people does LKH thinks one has to date before one becomes... whatever. Like, when I had only had sex with one guy, was I not really heterosexual yet? Or was I, because I'd kissed more than one guy? What is the magic number of people one must fuck before one's label changes?

[jessica collett (from livejournal.com)]

It sounds like a debate that must be posed in a folk-rock song.

'How many women must I fuck, before I can claim a label? (If you're into labelling your sexuality, but if you're not, that's cool too.......)'

Deffo going to be a hit.

[lliira (from livejournal.com)]

LOL!