Facebook flog - Oct 15 2013

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Link: Oct 15 2013, 5:42
Disclaimer: This blog entry is verbatim, as originally posted on LKH's Facebook. Copyright belongs to Ma Petite Enterprises.

I wished our girlfriend, yes Jon and I are date-dating her, a happy Goth Chick Appreciation Day, yesterday. I thought I'd mentioned we had a girlfriend on FB, from the responses, apparently not. I've mentioned it on twitter, and as other comments noted on my RIDDIT interview this year. If it had been Goth Boy Appreciation Day I'd have wished my husband, and over lovers, current, and past good tidings of their holiday, but it was Goth Chick Appreciation Day, so . . .

No, I'm not bisexual, if I was she wouldn't be the first girlfriend I'd ever had. Jon and I like the term Heteroflexible.

No, I've never tried to date as many people as Anita dates. 5 was my max and it was too many to give emotional support and care, or time, to everyone.

Before someone asks, NO, none of the people I've dated past, or present have been used as basis for my fictional characters - note the word fictional.

Polyamorous means to love more, and yes it is a weird mix of Greek and Latin, but it has become widely accepted, so that's the term. Poly has only one real rule, everyone is supposed to know what everyone is doing, or who they're doing. No lying, no cheating, but just communication of epic proportions. If you're prone to jealousy, please do not attempt poly. If you want to sleep with other people, do not bully your spouse into being poly with you, if you aren't so much poly as just wanting to fuck-about. Please keep your cheating asses off our polyamory, and don't blame the fact you can't keep it in your pants on us. And no, we are not swingers, that's a different alternative lifestyle. What's swinging? Google it. You can google Polyamory, too, but don't believe everything you read. (That goes for anything you research on line.)

Comments

[mocha-latta.livejournal.com]

I'm going to come in on the defence of heteroflexable identity. I identify as pansexual myself, but I have a few friends who define themselves as heteroflexable. As I understand it, they are primary het., but are open to very occasional sexual experiences with people of the same sex, sort of 'it's okay if it's you' type of deal. They don't identify as bi or as pan because they feel like it's a very rare occurrence, and they don't think that they're interested in a queer relationship.
I can certainly see the problematic issues regarding the name, if the attitude is indeed 'no homo', but I think identity is private, ultimiatly.

[jeza-red.livejournal.com]

Nowadays people twist and turn sexual identities any way it fits them - which is fine, as long as a person knows what they are it's their button an no one else's.
It just really strange to me that a person SO invested in labelling everything as either or as LKH uses this term to back up her rigid 'no homo' stance. In the end it's her business and her alone, but I am still scratching my head.

[rebootfromstart.livejournal.com]

I should have been more specific in my comment; I hate the term in this case (and in a few others, but they're not really germane to the conversation) because LKH has been so iffy about homosexuality before. I know a couple of people who, while they don't use the label themselves, have said that it's what they would use if they wanted to use an identifier, but because they're generally decent people who have always been pretty supportive of their non-straight friends, it doesn't feel like "BUT THIS DOESN'T MAKE ME ACTUALLY HAVE HOMOSEXUAL TENDENCIES" the way it does with LKH, if that makes any sense?

[mocha-latta.livejournal.com]

Oh, I understand the vexation in THIS case, and it can definitely lead to queer erasure. I just get all hand wringy at the thought that it's always an invalid identity.
This all really reeks of "look how non-white-picket-fence I am".