Facebook flog - Oct 15 2013

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Link: Oct 15 2013, 5:42
Disclaimer: This blog entry is verbatim, as originally posted on LKH's Facebook. Copyright belongs to Ma Petite Enterprises.

I wished our girlfriend, yes Jon and I are date-dating her, a happy Goth Chick Appreciation Day, yesterday. I thought I'd mentioned we had a girlfriend on FB, from the responses, apparently not. I've mentioned it on twitter, and as other comments noted on my RIDDIT interview this year. If it had been Goth Boy Appreciation Day I'd have wished my husband, and over lovers, current, and past good tidings of their holiday, but it was Goth Chick Appreciation Day, so . . .

No, I'm not bisexual, if I was she wouldn't be the first girlfriend I'd ever had. Jon and I like the term Heteroflexible.

No, I've never tried to date as many people as Anita dates. 5 was my max and it was too many to give emotional support and care, or time, to everyone.

Before someone asks, NO, none of the people I've dated past, or present have been used as basis for my fictional characters - note the word fictional.

Polyamorous means to love more, and yes it is a weird mix of Greek and Latin, but it has become widely accepted, so that's the term. Poly has only one real rule, everyone is supposed to know what everyone is doing, or who they're doing. No lying, no cheating, but just communication of epic proportions. If you're prone to jealousy, please do not attempt poly. If you want to sleep with other people, do not bully your spouse into being poly with you, if you aren't so much poly as just wanting to fuck-about. Please keep your cheating asses off our polyamory, and don't blame the fact you can't keep it in your pants on us. And no, we are not swingers, that's a different alternative lifestyle. What's swinging? Google it. You can google Polyamory, too, but don't believe everything you read. (That goes for anything you research on line.)

Comments

[subtle-shades.livejournal.com]

If you want to sleep with other people, do not bully your spouse into being poly with you, if you aren't so much poly as just wanting to fuck-about.

I totally misunderstood the message because of the way that the sentences were constructed. For example, the one above is REDUNDANT and composed of two IF-THEN statements, one straight up and the other reversed.

IF you want to sleep with other people ----> THEN don't bully your spouse into being poly with you.

THEN don't bully your spouse into being poly with you <----- IF you aren't so much poly as just wanting to sleep around.

The sentiments are more or less the same, of course, (that one shouldn't bully's one's spouse into trying polyamory if all one wants is to be unfaithful) but there's the implication to me that it might be okay to (at least try to) bully your spouse into being poly if you're poly. But, judging by the previous comments, she meant to say no infidelity and no bullying, regardless of the circumstances.

....this is why I read her books via sporks. Even when I read them first hand, I often had trouble figuring out what was going on, much less why it was going on.

[lliira (from livejournal.com)]

I am not so sure that she is saying no bullying. Her stories are pro-bullying, so long as the bullies are Anita and the people on her side.

[guardians-song.livejournal.com]

Yeah, but her public persona is more civil than her books.

Kind of by default. If she were to leap on a critic and start dry-humping them in broad daylight (while warbling about metaphysics), that would be one con to which she was never invited back.

[lliira (from livejournal.com)]

Lol.

Yes, she is more civil than her self-insert by necessity, but from what I've read, she is still extremely uncivil, both online and in meatspace. There was a comment here by someone (I think Nic_Echo?) who said LKH completely ignored a tall blonde woman during conversation. And LKH has posted many extremely insulting things, like the "Bleeding On My Keyboard" and "Dear Negative Reader" posts... and this one. I think she is getting more removed from reality as time goes on, and so she is forgetting to even pretend to be civil more and more, if she could even figure out how to in the first place.

[guardians-song.livejournal.com]

Yes, I remember that clearly from nic_echo. It's both interesting and appalling that she practices what she preaches.
And I agree about her awful posts - my point was that she always maintains a veneer of being the totally-oblivious, wronged it's-just-'cos-I-dance-to-a-different-beat!individualist, and openly condoning bullying would be a step too far for that persona. Now, "getting revenge", I can see her condoning. But only so long as she plays the originally-wronged party.

I could be wrong, however. I don't think anyone sporking Danse Macabre back when it first came out could have guessed that she'd start pulling stunts with the "e-specials" and exposing her bile as openly as Shutdown.

...TBH, I'd wonder if she was on drugs if I didn't strongly suspect she'd parade it in her books if she was. I don't care if she's an utter narcissist - I would swear that narcissists don't drop their guard THIS much unless there was an underlying cognitive issue in development. Both her blogs and her books have gotten more and more disjointed and shallow with time, and I'm not sure that's just disinhibition talking.

I don't like speculating about authors' mental health, but I'm honestly getting unnerved.

[lliira (from livejournal.com)]

Even reading Danse Macabre now, it's shocking to me how much worse LKH has gotten, both as a writer and, apparently, as a person. Especially because Danse Macabre is so terrible. But it seems that every time we think LKH can't go lower, she does.

LKH seems to have shut herself off from anyone who would criticize her in the slightest way. Also, like Anita, she seems not to have any hobbies. Work and sex seem to be her entire life, and that is not healthy.

[uf-addict.livejournal.com]

LOL!!

I think Anita is her demon and expresses every dark impulse and bad behavior. The flip side of us that we don't let out if we want to be accepted into civilized and mature society. I think Merry represents a more evolved personality - the more mature and accepting. But they are both very much her and by now impossible to separate.

She should have never let her personal life out so much. I can't see the characters anymore - all I see is her. Even supporting and side characters are there to react or support, otherwise she is just diddling herself.

[luscious-words.livejournal.com]

Having had the, um, displeasure or misfortune of meeting her at a few book signings, as well as at a book con, I would not necessarily consider her public persona as civil. A friend and I were in line waiting, and my friend overheard LKH and her dear husbeast making snide remarks about people. I'm sorry to say it took more than the first book signing to realize what an asshat she could be in person.