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Facebook flog - Oct 18 2013
Link: Oct 18 2013, 14:15
Disclaimer: This blog entry is verbatim, as originally posted on LKH's Facebook. Copyright belongs to Ma Petite Enterprises.
First, thank you so much for all the positive feedback. It was wonderful to hear from so many other poly people - we are not alone! :-) But also loved hearing from so many people who weren't poly, but were still supportive of our choice to have a lifestyle that wasn't theirs. It was refreshing and awesome to see so much good stuff in the comments.
Thank you, also, to all the women who offered to date me, and to the women who wrote things that made my on-line security person delete your posts . . . I'm flattered, but the reason I say, I'm heteroflexible, and not bisexual is that other than Genevieve, our girlfriend, I still don't seem that interested in women. She maybe my one exception. We've been dating her for several years, so sorry, ladies, but I seem to be a one woman, sorta girl.
And for some of the other comments, it's not just the three of us in a closed poly threesome. There are other people in our lives. (Closed poly means however many people are in your poly group 3 to 50, that you can't bring new people in without the group permission, and they usually get veto on lovers, or play partners) I found it very interesting that once I used the word "girlfriend" almost everyone assumed that there were no other men, besides Jon. Particularly interesting since I mentioned Goth boys in the first paragraph.
Also, thanks for asking, but we won't be posting pictures of Genevieve anytime soon. She's a very private person, and I respect that privacy. I got her permission before posting the Goth girl post.
Thank you again for all the positive energy. You guys rock!
Disclaimer: This blog entry is verbatim, as originally posted on LKH's Facebook. Copyright belongs to Ma Petite Enterprises.
First, thank you so much for all the positive feedback. It was wonderful to hear from so many other poly people - we are not alone! :-) But also loved hearing from so many people who weren't poly, but were still supportive of our choice to have a lifestyle that wasn't theirs. It was refreshing and awesome to see so much good stuff in the comments.
Thank you, also, to all the women who offered to date me, and to the women who wrote things that made my on-line security person delete your posts . . . I'm flattered, but the reason I say, I'm heteroflexible, and not bisexual is that other than Genevieve, our girlfriend, I still don't seem that interested in women. She maybe my one exception. We've been dating her for several years, so sorry, ladies, but I seem to be a one woman, sorta girl.
And for some of the other comments, it's not just the three of us in a closed poly threesome. There are other people in our lives. (Closed poly means however many people are in your poly group 3 to 50, that you can't bring new people in without the group permission, and they usually get veto on lovers, or play partners) I found it very interesting that once I used the word "girlfriend" almost everyone assumed that there were no other men, besides Jon. Particularly interesting since I mentioned Goth boys in the first paragraph.
Also, thanks for asking, but we won't be posting pictures of Genevieve anytime soon. She's a very private person, and I respect that privacy. I got her permission before posting the Goth girl post.
Thank you again for all the positive energy. You guys rock!
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Yeah - that really made it clear for us that she is not self-inserting into her books.
I swear you could pinpoint it when she started taking over the books. The hints of author interference started happening fairly early but it was so minor you could ignore it. By now, it is all about the author and her characters are just gone.
I agree with raven7601 - I don't want to know the author except as the person that provides me with a book. In fact, I take it a bit further. I don't want to know they exist. When they put the book out there and I take it up and fall in love with it - its mine!! It belongs to me now and if an author interferes, it can ruin it for me. I will look at the back jacket photo for a second and am often astonished at how different they are than what I imagined. But that is okay because I really don't care and just want to remember the name so I can look for more books. And if they write a book I don't like, its not personal because I don't know them. I usually just move on.
I don't know what happened here but OMG do I ever regret looking up LKH's blog/forum!! I mean knowing more about the author than I ever wanted to know. I actually enjoy the posting with other people here about the disillusionment of former series entertainment and the dissection of author-gone-wild. I feel mean sometimes and a bit guilty like I am peeking in someone's window, but then the author puts out something like Shutdown and follows up with these poly posts and suddenly I am back in the moral high ground.
Anyway, after reading these past few posts I feel more than ever that Anita and Merry are just dress up dolls of LKH and that is NOT the image I wanted of these characters.
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I can think about 3 other authors I know that much about:
GRRM (Because I check his blog for info on when the next book will be out and used to try to read it ... boring)
Robert Asprin (Because he got in trouble with the IRS)
Terry Pratchett (Because I've been reading his books for a long time and simply enjoy hearing what he's up to).
I won't say that I don't care about the author. If the author is good, I want them to succeed and have a wonderful career. But I mostly don't find their private lives to have any impact on my interest in their work. I just want the books to be good.
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I think there is a saying - never meet your heroes. Maybe someone here knows the real quote.
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Do people ever expect you to be your characters?
LKH: If I had known people would get confused between fiction and fact I'd have made Anita look less like me, but it just never occurred to me that there would be a problem. I've had fans want to know what weapons I'm carrying. They assume all the men are based on real people, and they aren't. I don't actually base characters on real people. Since I can't lighten Anita's hair, I've lightened my own and I get less fan confusion. I've had fans ask for the phone numbers of the men and get angry when I tried to explain I couldn't give them the contact info for a fictional character.
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And I'm not surprised she did change her hair to help some people in their confusion. I only wonder why she looked so confused when I asked her about it and acted like she had no idea what I was talking about. This was the last time she went to the Archon convention in St.Louis, so before Kiss the Dead came out, I think by at least a year if not more. (though if Anita is that real to her, I think Anita could change her hair if she really wanted to. It might look strange but no...Anita looks perfect no matter what she looks like ;P )