After reading this, I'm coming across harsher than I mean to. Let me explain:
When my Grandmother died, I didn't go to the funeral. I think my mother made a good decision because the only memories I have of her are of her being alive. To me, especially when with kids so young, sometimes not seeing a corpse is the best thing a person could do. So when I hear of people taking a child to the scene of thier parents death, anything short of not getting the chance to drop the kid off makes no sence to me; a mangled, blood splattered car is the stuff of nightmares. For LKH to be taken to the scene and allowed to touch the blood inside the car, either the adults around her weren't thinking, or they thought the experience would help with the greiving process. The latter I think is nuts because it ignores the fact that a person is dealing with someone at an age were fact and fiction are relative terms.
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Date: 2008-08-19 10:18 pm (UTC)When my Grandmother died, I didn't go to the funeral. I think my mother made a good decision because the only memories I have of her are of her being alive. To me, especially when with kids so young, sometimes not seeing a corpse is the best thing a person could do. So when I hear of people taking a child to the scene of thier parents death, anything short of not getting the chance to drop the kid off makes no sence to me; a mangled, blood splattered car is the stuff of nightmares. For LKH to be taken to the scene and allowed to touch the blood inside the car, either the adults around her weren't thinking, or they thought the experience would help with the greiving process. The latter I think is nuts because it ignores the fact that a person is dealing with someone at an age were fact and fiction are relative terms.