'No, I'm not bisexual, if I was she wouldn't be the first girlfriend I'd ever had'
Not going to argue sexual identities here (because.... everyone has a right to sexually identify in whatever way they want) but that sentence just grates. You can identify as bisexual and not have dated a woman before. It's not as if people go 'I am now bisexual!' and immediately latch themselves onto a suitable member of the same gender. You might not know you could be attracted to people of your gender until you meet someone that sparks the realisation in you. It comes off as extremely defensive and dismissive of bisexuality, which is just wonderful. Really inclusive. Not judgemental at all.
'Jon and I like the term Heteroflexible.'
I don't like the word hetroflexible. It seems to be a way of saying you like being with girls (in this instance) without catching the cooties that come from openly and honestly being attracted to women.
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Date: 2013-10-15 03:54 pm (UTC)Not going to argue sexual identities here (because.... everyone has a right to sexually identify in whatever way they want) but that sentence just grates. You can identify as bisexual and not have dated a woman before. It's not as if people go 'I am now bisexual!' and immediately latch themselves onto a suitable member of the same gender. You might not know you could be attracted to people of your gender until you meet someone that sparks the realisation in you. It comes off as extremely defensive and dismissive of bisexuality, which is just wonderful. Really inclusive. Not judgemental at all.
'Jon and I like the term Heteroflexible.'
I don't like the word hetroflexible. It seems to be a way of saying you like being with girls (in this instance) without catching the cooties that come from openly and honestly being attracted to women.