I'll say this first, to be crystal clear: no one's in trouble. I'm not going to drag anyone out into the alley and go Jack Bauer ballistic on them. (Although, as an aside, Kiefer Sutherland could play an excellent Edward.) I am tweaking the FAQ and this will be covered in there, but I'm posting this so it's open knowledge.
A while ago, things got… questionable when we were discussing LKH's appearance, and I asked the community to focus their snark on her writing and her behaviour. Sure, a comment on her oh-my-Goth make-up is sure to come up every once in a while, but things like weight are irrelevant to her writing ability or lack thereof. I can see the issue coming up briefly in a post about Mary Sueism, perhaps, but it should never be the focus. I know I certainly don't have "the perfect figure" and I'm sure my take on fashion isn't for everyone, and that's the case for a lot of us here. All-praise to the Internet, which makes looks unimportant and focuses on substance—or so the dowdy ones like me hope =)
Translation? Snark about her blogs, her books, her interviews. Snark about her "work" and her "vision" and her behaviour at signings. Leave appearances out of it, please. Otherwise, we're just going to degenerate to a junior high mentality of "OMG, she's so fat/skinny/ugly/plain/whatever". It's not exactly like
lkh_lashouts is renowned for credibility and class, but we don't have to be petty either.
That extends to Jon and Darla too. (Trinity is off limits almost entirely, because that's only fair.) I know the snark writes itself, but… we have to have some sort of standards. So unless it's relevant to a blog entry or something legitimately snarkable, leave personal appearance out of it. It's too subjective and, like I said above, it almost always ends in pettiness. I'm not going to be a tyrant about it. Like I've said, a comment here or there about Laurell's make-up or Jon's hair isn't a big deal. However, entire posts and threads dedicated to nothing but someone's looks are not snark.
I look at it in terms of the Golden Rule: do unto others as you'd have done to you. Do I expect my published work to be criticised, in both positive and negative terms? Yes. I think that's a fair thing to expect when you get a novel published. Would I, as a novelist, expect people to be bitching about the type of shoes I wear? No. Whether I wear sandals or stilettos or nothing at all has no bearing on my talent (or lack thereof).