Wellllll. There are a lot of semantic things here.
I agree that LKH overuses the term "homophobic." After all, I'd be uncomfortable seeing JC naked if he'd stolen/sexed up my girlfriend, after all. It's not necessarily homophobia; it's not wanting to get busy with the guy who took your former significant other and turned her into, well, kind of a hobag.
I get the sense that LKH is just trying to be "daring" and "alternative" or some other kind of nonsense (and it's really sad that denouncing homophobia would equal being "daring," but that's a rant for another day). Of course, her actual writing reveals that she's not so open-minded as she thinks.
On the other hand, you're misusing some terms yourself here. If your friend was born biologically male and is transitioning into living as female, it's proper and respectful to refer to your friend as "she."
And, you know, gender identity and sexual orientation are totally separate things, so while your friend is transgendered, that doesn't affect whether your friend likes men or women or anything in between. "Gay" and "transgendered" aren't one and the same.
"Homophobia" is often used to apply to just anyone uncomfortable with same-sex sexual tension. "Biphobia" as a term isn't used that often, and it has connotations of objecting to the fact that someone's attracted to both genders, rather than objecting to the fact that someone's attracted to the same sex. (Thus, some homosexual people are just as guilty of biphobia as some straight people are.)
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Date: 2007-05-04 01:59 am (UTC)I agree that LKH overuses the term "homophobic." After all, I'd be uncomfortable seeing JC naked if he'd stolen/sexed up my girlfriend, after all. It's not necessarily homophobia; it's not wanting to get busy with the guy who took your former significant other and turned her into, well, kind of a hobag.
I get the sense that LKH is just trying to be "daring" and "alternative" or some other kind of nonsense (and it's really sad that denouncing homophobia would equal being "daring," but that's a rant for another day). Of course, her actual writing reveals that she's not so open-minded as she thinks.
On the other hand, you're misusing some terms yourself here. If your friend was born biologically male and is transitioning into living as female, it's proper and respectful to refer to your friend as "she."
And, you know, gender identity and sexual orientation are totally separate things, so while your friend is transgendered, that doesn't affect whether your friend likes men or women or anything in between. "Gay" and "transgendered" aren't one and the same.
"Homophobia" is often used to apply to just anyone uncomfortable with same-sex sexual tension. "Biphobia" as a term isn't used that often, and it has connotations of objecting to the fact that someone's attracted to both genders, rather than objecting to the fact that someone's attracted to the same sex. (Thus, some homosexual people are just as guilty of biphobia as some straight people are.)