Sorry LKH. When an abused person leaves their abuser, it's not considered to be hurting the abuser in the mind of a sane person.
You just hit on something that disturbes me about their "relationship"...I mean, besides the obvious. When someone leaves an abuser, the abuser does feel hurt. Not because they give a damn about the person, but because they have made their control of the person a huge part of their identity. The fact that LKH writes that mindset without even realizing it is pretty damn unnerving.
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Date: 2008-01-01 03:52 am (UTC)You just hit on something that disturbes me about their "relationship"...I mean, besides the obvious. When someone leaves an abuser, the abuser does feel hurt. Not because they give a damn about the person, but because they have made their control of the person a huge part of their identity. The fact that LKH writes that mindset without even realizing it is pretty damn unnerving.