Just A Thought...Are We Enablers?

[watersheerie.livejournal.com]

I apologize if this particular thought has already been posted...I have a really really bad memory.

We are all very aware of how much LKH loves attention. Good, bad or indifferent, she thrives on it. It has gotten to the point that I wonder if she is Histrionic or something of that nature. She does anything she can for attention. Books aside, she continues to write what has already generated a lot of heat. Her choice of clothing in public, and her actions within public. Her blogs...God the blogs. She'll complain that she doesn't want to be in the spotlight and is tired of people paying attention to her, which is her passive submissive way of gaining more attention.

We all get it, LKH, you love it when people talk about you, even if its bad.

With this in mind, are we feeding the beast? I understand why LKH Lashouts came into being. I was, for a brief time, a member of the LKH forum, and found the place to be more frustrating then trying to get all the plastic and stickers off a new cd (a personal pet peeve). Eventually...quickly I grew tired of the min-fascist regime they had going on over there and came her. I do like this place, and the reason for LKH Lashouts is an understandable and rational one. Still...we are giving her attention over here, and I can't believe that she is totally unaware of what goes on here. In fact, I think it is a lie that she claims to not visit her forums very often and other places on the net related to her. She probably checks them 24/7, as they are places devoted to her favorite subject: LKH.

We are giving her attention, and I'm wondering if this is just giving into what she wants. LKH is surrounded by enablers currently. I almost feel bad for her, because I can't believe that all these people who say they care about her, actually do. Their actions are not that of people who do love her. I would hope that the people who love me would stop me from pulling the stunts that LKH does. Her writing has deteriorated because of these enablers, possibly her own mental state has as well, and none of them really give a damn about her. If she truly is Histrionic, or something of that nature, she needs help...not more 'yes men.'

Does the attention we give her over here, only exasperate the problem? It seems like lately her blogs have been showing no improvement, in fact they seem to indicate that she is getting worse. Now, I'm not saying that LKH Lashouts should be stopped, or that we are all very bad people for encouraging LKH and her whoring for attention. I'm just wondering if we are a part of the problem.

Side-note: My mother works within the the mental health care system as a case worker for those with mental illness. I was telling her about LKH's books, specifically her thoughts and views on sex and sexual abuse. I mention how LKH believes that Nathanial is old for his age because of his childhood abuse, and how Anita is now sleeping with him, and how every man has been abused and raped in some fashion. My mom looked disgusted, then asked me if LKH had every been sexually abused as a child. I said I didn't know. My mom explained that it sounds as if LKH had been sexually abused, her obsession with sex and all that. I have no  idea whether this is true or not, but sadly it does make some sense. It doesn't excuse LKH's behavior, if anything it makes it more imperative that these supposed 'caring' people in her life get her some help.

Comments

[shadwing.livejournal.com]

Honestly?

I don't think we are a part of the problem, and if we are its a small part of it. I think if LKH was aware of us and reading this LJ we'd be hearing all about it.

If you look at her blogs, you can see that whenever something 'annoys' her or 'hurts' her no matter if it's physical or mental she'll wax on and on and on about it. Pretty sure if she knew about Lashouts we'd never hear the end of it in her blogs and if Darla was still part of the team she'd be the one on the computer to LJ trying to get us shut down.

LKH DOES have way too many 'Yes Men' Darla (formerly) and Jon top of the list determined to keep her 'happy' no idea if this is so she keeps writing (thusly the money flowing) or if it just makes it easier to live with her. Now that LKH is brancing out so to speak, twitter for example, it might be harder to filter out the bad and keep her 'happy' so we shall see on the latter part.

I think we all here at Lashouts agree that LKH doesn't have issues, she has subscriptions...LIFETIME subscriptions she needs a break from her writing and a good long stint at a quality therapists couch in that order.