I have a problem with this quote, because it seems to be saying that what matters most is how pretty someone thinks you are. Now, I know my boyfriend thinks I'm attractive, but I also think that the woman I met the other week who was massively inappropriate at me about being a "chubby chaser" and made me deeply uncomfortable probably thinks I'm even more beautiful than my boyfriend does, given that I fit into her specific fetish group and my boyfriend doesn't fetishise my body type*. That doesn't mean I should be with her over him. I'd rather be with someone who thinks I've pretty-but-not-spectacular but clicks with me on an interpersonal level than with the person who thinks I'm gorgeous but doesn't want to spend any time with me outside the bedroom because they can't stand my personality.
* This isn't to say fetishists are all inappropriate, creepy people. Just that inappropriate, creepy people are, sadly, more likely to go "HEY I HAVE THIS FETISH YOU FIT LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT IT" and thus make fetishists seem inappropriate and creepy because the nice, appropriate ones don't randomly bring it up in non-sexual conversation.
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Date: 2014-04-12 08:37 pm (UTC)* This isn't to say fetishists are all inappropriate, creepy people. Just that inappropriate, creepy people are, sadly, more likely to go "HEY I HAVE THIS FETISH YOU FIT LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT IT" and thus make fetishists seem inappropriate and creepy because the nice, appropriate ones don't randomly bring it up in non-sexual conversation.