Curious about this for awhile...

[saucyirishlass.livejournal.com]

It's been said in many places by different people that LKH's portrayal of the BDSM lifestyle is off. I know a bit more than just the basics - ah, the joys of reading - and can sort of inherently pick up that something isn't right with her depiction, but I can't really articulate it. I was just curious to hear from those who participate in the lifestyle, what they personally find offensive, frustrating, or just headdesk-worthy about LKH's portrayal. Perhaps they can help make it clearer to me why it feels amiss.

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[vmisery.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it was definitely buried beneath a cloud of mystic magic crap, but basically boiled down to, "it's okay if I hold you against a wall in a shower and sex you even after you keep saying 'don't', because we're soulmates and it's destined to be. Even though you only met me six hours ago. Oh yeah, and you're going to have an amazing orgasm anyway".

I think it was the subtlety of it that I found most disturbing. Very nouveaux domestic abuse.

[tsubaki-ny.livejournal.com]

That was the one with the soap, yeah? I feel pain every time I think of that. Where is the sexy??? The sexy is where????

I do think there are a lot of people, though, who have picked up on the fact that it's pretty much a textbook date rape scenario. (I'm basing this on what I've seen on Amazon, though, so not claiming total accuracy or nothin'..)

[vmisery.livejournal.com]

Yep. The one with the soap. And I winced too.