Her serendipity blog?

[alexandra-cade.livejournal.com]

http://blog.laurellkhamilton.org/index.php/site/Serendipity_with_a_side_of_Pain/

Please pardon my horrible blogging skills. I'm a confessed newbie.

So I have two points to make.

1. That blog. She whines like she is the only woman to EVER go through relationship trials and tribulations. And the woman has a serious inferiority complex. You'd think with her relentless online nattering and realizations that she'd get over it, but she never does. I sometimes think she just cries for the sympathy and the audience. And here's the thing...I can see someone going through some heavy stuff, working it out by writing, and then getting over it. Everyone has that due, right?

But I guess the thing that really gets me about reading her blog is that it is the same old stuff over and over. I think that is really what is at the core of people's annoyance with the thing. Would be be annoyed if we weren't sitting here thinking, "Laurell. You really just need to drop that shit and move on with your life."

2. That picture of her and Jon on the blog? Ok. I'm all for women getting the younger men. It's about time that whole thing was reversed. So 9 times out of 10, I'll give the woman a "HIGH FIVE" if she's got a hot younger man.

But there she is, looking like the Mom of Dracula and he looks like some kid who doesn't realize he should have graduated college about two years ago. And what is with him wearing the makeup? When your man is prettier than you are, ladies, we have an issue. Men and makeup needs to stay with the emo kids and the Rock Gods. I completely realize that I am being snarky here, but that picture gives me the willies. What do you think?

Comments

[ellenel13.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry but I can't add anything to the discussion because I only got as far as her bragging about her *manly* views on appearance and rolled my eyes and stopped reading.

Also, I think people here may get the "willies" from pictures of LKH and boytoy because the woman has blabbed so much about their personal life. If I knew nothing about LKH, and saw her picture I'd probably find her average looking or maybe even pretty despite her atrocious fashion sense. Sadly, her public persona is so obnoxious that I can't look at pictures of her and find her attractive. Jon has never looked good to me so he would probably just look like a normal guy I wouldn't find attractive. Actually, my opinion of Jon is pretty neutral since almost all the info we have from him comes from LKH and that woman is not stable.

[ladymina.livejournal.com]

he looked a lot better in that pic than in the ones I saw before, I was positively surprised ,,,
The one thing that makes me think of Jon with a lot of caution is the fact that he was the president or vice president of her fan-club before he started dating her, that sounds a bit questionable

[lilacwire.livejournal.com]

I dated a guy who liked eyeliner and such - it's really just our society that pooh-poohs it. I think what gives me the willies is that it seems like Jon is a puppet with Laurell's hand up his ass. If it were known that he did these things because it was something he really liked, perhaps opinion would be different.

[alexandra-cade.livejournal.com]

Meh. I'd be just as happy if the male actors left off with that stuff. Though, I don't do much in the makeup department myself (unless I have to).

[quizzicalsphinx.livejournal.com]

I think what gives me the willies is not so much his make-up but her possessive claw on his shoulder.

[dreamstrifer.livejournal.com]

Wow, no wonder LKH has a vicious dislike of tall, blonde, Nordic women (though I'm short and Russo-Germanic and I've had plenty of guys after me. It helps that I dress up like video game and anime characters, but that's neither here nor there).

Um, some women can be perfectly "girly" about their appearance and have short nails. My friend in particular is this way (totally girly girl when we go out, has to have perfect hair and clothes), mostly because she's a nervous biter.

This reminds me, I need to cut my nails before my final piano jury. They're starting to click on the keys.

[gwynethfar.livejournal.com]

I thought that said, "final piano injury" for a minute, and my face went like this: D:

[phyrra.livejournal.com]

I like guys wearing makeup and nail polish on occasion.
That being said, I especially like it if THEY want to do it, instead of them being forced to do it.

[daphne-gateau.livejournal.com]

I've sworn off her blog because it's nonsense and whining; but I zipped over to check out the pictue. (to get the picture you might need to refresh the screen a couple times)

His dewy-eyed expression is what bothers me: complacently vacant, Stepford-esque. It brings to mind Nathaniel more than his physical description.

Btw, I don't know if it's makeup giving him that soft, fresh-faced complexion and touch of color. He might have some foundation, guyliner and lipgloss on but I think this photo was touched up. Skin tone and color are too even and painterly. Oh, and on my monitor it looks like Laurell has had some lines removed from her forehead too. I can still see a hint of them over the left eyebrow.

oooooh yeah

[crimsonpacific.livejournal.com]

Those are definitely touched up. When I used to work at a portrait store, all the touched up skin photos returned looking like that. The real problem was when people asked for the same touch-up treatment on babies, made them look like uber-fake dolls. Kinda creepy.

[moonsinger.livejournal.com]

I didn't see the picture in question. I can understand writing about problems even if they are the same old issues although I don't think I'd write them in my LJ.

I do not like men wearing makeup or nail polish; I wouldn't date (assuming I wasn't married, which I am) a man who wore makeup, nail polish, or had long hair. Just my personal preference.

[easol.livejournal.com]

You may have to reload it a few times -- a new pic pops up every time you load it.

[pith]

Modly: We're trying to get the community to stay away from comments about personal appearance, because they usually devolve into petty bitching. (And aside from that, I highly doubt any of us are perfect either.)

[ambrmerlinus.livejournal.com]

Men and makeup needs to stay with the emo kids and the Rock Gods.

And what about the drag queens, transvestites, crossdressers, and stage actors of the world?

[polymexina.livejournal.com]

and the men who just like swiping a bit of the old varnish onto the tippy tippers?

[rin-x-x.livejournal.com]

I like this part:

"(Yes, Anita and I shared that experience.)"

GEE, I WONDER WHY.

[ladyniko.livejournal.com]

Oh definite touch up on the photos... their faces are just too smooth and glowy for it not to be a touch up job.

But hey, she finally changed the color scheme on her blog - it's no longer such an eyestrain to read. Wow, never thought I'd see the day that happened. Now, if only she would learn to not write run-on paragraphs... :-p

[alexandra-cade.livejournal.com]

Well, paragraphs would be nice, but I'm not going to nitpick people's grammar on the internet. Mine sucks enough I don't have that kind of room to talk.

I'd be happy if there was more good fantasy fiction out there that was balanced between the male and female characters and had really good villains. All I see lately are stories where the female leads are generally bitchy Mary Sues and the monsters are either sex objects or an afterthought.

I haven't see a strong vampire character done right since Lestat. But there we go with the crazy authors again...

[booster-blue.livejournal.com]

Some people just like prettier men. I hardly think Jonboi qualifies as "pretty" per se...but to each their own. As a female that hisses at the thought of wearing make up, I figure if you like it, go for it. Hardly a major character flaw.

That aside, its yet another blog about just how manly LKH is, and how we should just be in slack-jaw awe of her at all times. Because we can't, you know, grasp how hard it is to be as amazing and tortured as she is.

[alexandra-cade.livejournal.com]

Well, if makeup on guys rings your bells, to each their own. But, personally, I don't find the metro thing attractive.

In my opinion, Jon was prettified for that picture-whether it be by the wonders of modern technology or the wonders foundation, powder, lip stain, and eyeliner. I don't know. The whole thing seems to me like they're both trying too hard.

I think my whole thing with authors and famous people blogging is that it ruins the mystery. Same thing with these over-exposed stars and starlets. How fascinating would Brad Pitt be if he had a blog telling us what he had for breakfast, what made him flatulent, how his exes had scarred him, how much mommy didn't love him, how we should all believe and live our lives this certain way and then preached to us how enlightened he was? His career would go the way of Tom Cruise after he danced on Oprah's couch. So he leaves a little to the imagination and his fans (of which I am not one in particular) want more.

The ones that hold my attention the longest are the ones that I don't know everything about. Save all the psycho-analytical dissection and microscopic dissection for the post-mortem autobiography that the kids will cash in on.

Do you think it's ever occurred to some of these public figures that are embracing technology that they're shooting themselves in the foot in the longrun? Do you think they're shooting themselves in the foot in the longrun?

[novadivine.livejournal.com]

Do you think it's ever occurred to some of these public figures that are embracing technology that they're shooting themselves in the foot in the longrun? Do you think they're shooting themselves in the foot in the longrun?

Now THIS is an interesting topic. Much of my job involves social media, so I'm interested in its effects. Take Twitter. When I started, I followed many celebs I thought would be interesting. Stephen Fry, Neil Gaiman, Graham Linehan (creator of Father Ted), Robert Llewellen (Kryten on Red Dwarf), and the guys from Rifftrax/MST3K are still my favorite Tweeters, because I can identify with them. Still, I had to unfollow Ashton Kutcher, Demi Moore and others because I just don't care. I get it. Their lives are more fabulous than mine.

For me, I definitely think Hamilton's blogs have hurt her. It's the smugness of her fabulous life, the condemnation of her haters (her grandmother and ex-husband included) and the "more awesome than thou" tone she takes that irks me. How can anyone identify with that? Still, I can't look away. Her books were just bad before, but her arrogance and belief in her own hype makes me want to shout, "Will you just look at yourself for a moment?? Really!" For me, it's like deliberately listening to Rush Limbaugh just for the healthy dose of rage.

However, there are troos out there who lap up everything she has to say and may even go as far as tailor their own lives around her blogs. To them, her words are gospel. In their case, she's done her job well.

[cryptaknight.livejournal.com]

Jon is not my type, but whatever. OTOH, her dog is freaking adorable.

I'm more concerned with wondering how her hair can be curled to match her make up. After that it was all a pile of tl;dr we've read before, so I didn't go on.

Don't mind me...

[naeko.livejournal.com]

I'll be over here, making out with your icon.

[gwynethfar.livejournal.com]

Well, SOMEBODY woke up on the catty side of the bed, didn't they, now?

[alexandra-cade.livejournal.com]

Yup. Admittedly.

[kd-lalala.livejournal.com]

"I stood on the edge of the Mississippi River yesterday, inches from deep, muddy brown of it. The wind was fresh and tasted of spring as it played with my hair."

I hate to be distracted from the drama, but Laurell, this is flood season and the wind is not going to smell of spring that close to the Mississippi. It's going to smell of muddy water and dead fishies.

[librarista.livejournal.com]

That probably is the scent of spring in her darkity-dark world. Dirt and corpses. Like the scent of every season.

[slayra.livejournal.com]

My thoughts exactly. *rolls eyes*

[icecreamempress.livejournal.com]

If you hire someone for their expertise, then get out of their way and let them do their job.

HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA

oh my sides

[alexandra-cade.livejournal.com]

If she only applied that logic to her editor.

[bludflower.livejournal.com]

Yeah... I couldn't get past the first half-dozen sentences. I knew it was going to be a rough one the second she set herself up as the deepity-deep beauty gazing dreamily across the stanky-ass Mississippi, contemplating the meaning of looking so damn good, despite the mean things Grandma said like 30 years ago... or something.

Ya know... I can understand being messed up over hardships faced during your childhood... but C'MON! My mother didn't have regular shrink visits when I was growing up, but she managed to accept things about her past and move forward for the good of her husband and kids, simply because she reeeeaally wanted to. (And that poor woman suffered just about every type of abuse in the book.) LKH doesn't WANT to get over it. It makes her feel entitled to her behavior. If she gets "better" she loses leverage. I've met tons of people like her in the bug-house myself. There are people who WANT to get better and there are people who just want to be enabled. *YAWN* I offically don't care how lousy she feels about her looks.

That chick needs to grow up already. She's going to be that much more ridiculous blathering on about her looks/fashion skills at age sixty.

[magdalen77.livejournal.com]

I think a lot of times you'll find that the people who had awful crap happen to them get over it, grow beyond it, etc. The people who whine the most tend to have the emotional equivalent of a papercut. Yes, they hurt like hell, but they heal fairly quickly and without a scar. LKH wants to make sure that her papercut gets infected so she can continue to whine about it.

[ladymina.livejournal.com]

Most people move on with their lives. And don't think every little bit of remembrance has to be noted by a lot of people,
I wouldn't want so many people to know about my family problems,
she always gives me the feeling of someone with a very big attention seeking problem.

And the pic of Jon just looks like one of this touched up posed portrait pictures where the artist touches up on your make-up and the pic digitally.
Not to be confused with every day look
which you can see if you reloud the page a few times.

[sandit.livejournal.com]

While I know she does have a pretty pressing publishing schedule, I think LKH's problem is that she has too much free time on her hands. People need some structured obligations in their life to keep from growing too self centered. Being able to write full time in her case (especially with a relatively large staff to assist her in doing only that) seems like a blessing and a curse. Yes, she can write more, but it doesn't seem to be very healthy for her, and the worse it gets the more Sueish her heroines become. Vanity is just the most expedient expression of a mind consumed with nothing but itself. Come to think of it, this may be Jon's problem as well. On her actual appearance, I feel like I need to add that she has nothing to be ashamed of so that it will be clear my post isn't meant to be catty. She's about as averagely good looking a person as you would hope to find imo, not a movie star, and not obviously to everyone's tastes, but certainly attractive. Jon has too much hair on his face to tell imo, though he appears to have nice, wide eyes.

[fadeinthewash.livejournal.com]

Hey, I've seen that picture before. It is the only one in which I can actually see Jon as having any feminine features, as LKH likes to claim.