Curious about this for awhile...

[saucyirishlass.livejournal.com]

It's been said in many places by different people that LKH's portrayal of the BDSM lifestyle is off. I know a bit more than just the basics - ah, the joys of reading - and can sort of inherently pick up that something isn't right with her depiction, but I can't really articulate it. I was just curious to hear from those who participate in the lifestyle, what they personally find offensive, frustrating, or just headdesk-worthy about LKH's portrayal. Perhaps they can help make it clearer to me why it feels amiss.

Comments

[randomsome1.livejournal.com]

I remember the blog of hers from a few months(?) back where she said that a top was the dominant one in a relationship all the time, and that the bottom was always submissive, and that's how things were all the time unless the bottom was one of those nasty ones that basically tried to have an opinion of their own.

The bit where Merita claws the hell out of herself and whoever else is around her, no matter if they've said they don't want clawed or whatnot, seems off to me. I think it's mostly that she doesn't focus on, attempt to enjoy, or even really register the pain she's inflicting on herself or others.

[witchwillow.livejournal.com]

As someone who can quite happily top from the bottom when I'm not in the mood to be a total control freak, I think it's a good thing I never saw that blog, or if I did I wiped it from my mind.

[zombiexbunny.livejournal.com]

I remember the blog of hers from a few months(?) back where she said that a top was the dominant one in a relationship all the time, and that the bottom was always submissive, and that's how things were all the time unless the bottom was one of those nasty ones that basically tried to have an opinion of their own.



*facepalm*