BlogFlog: Mother's Day

[witchwillow.livejournal.com]

LKH: Emphasis
Me: Regular

We did our celebrating last weekend because Trinity is with her father this weekend.

I am probably getting the rarest gift of all for Mother's day. Time to myself.

I can't think of any custody arrangement wherein the child doesn't get to be with the mother on Mother's Day. I've heard of half-day arrangements. I've heard of combined Mother/Step-Mother celebrations. But not being there at all?

All I can think is that this is what she asked for - because ''the rarest gift of all for Mother's day. Time to myself'.

Considering she has dual custody of her child and thus doesn't have her child fulltime in the first place - what the heck is she talking about?

Also her child isn't a toddler who'll follow her into the bathroom and go 'Mommy can you get me a glass of milk?' Or a kindergartener who gets into mischief if left alone.

So what?



I bring this up not for the sole opportunity to bash LKH, but because this kind of selfishness and self-involvement seems to me to be part of what translates into her books and is why they suck and she can't take direction/advice/suggestion.

It also makes me think of Anita Blake (specifically) and the character's utter selfishness and how the world is seen through Anita's eyes.

I really wish it were possible if someone was messing up a franchise that someone else could write it better and get all the credit and kudos and money. Somehow it's just not enough to run circles around LKH in fanfiction. I'd love to see her truly threatened by someone else not locked into a selfish self-wanking point of view in exploring the universe.

It makes me wonder just how close could you get to mocking her in an original work? How close could you get to exploring a similar world? Would it have to be a strict parody? Or could you mention the brain-damanged Vampire Executioner who wonders the streets dirty and out of touch with reality and occasionally turning tricks on people with no scruples?

http://blog.laurellkhamilton.org/2007/05/happy-mothers-day.html

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[freyalorelei.livejournal.com]

Whenever LKH complains about the Trials and Tribulations of Motherhood, I think, Bitch, please.

1. She has one child. ONE.

2. This one child is in school for at least six hours a day, five days a week, eight months a year.

3. Going by traditional custody arrangements, that one child probably spends every other weekend with her father.

4. Since remarrying, LKH also has a partner to assist in parenting full-time. She is not a single mother anymore, and has not been for several years.

Granted, that is not to say that parenting even under the best circumstances is not difficult and demanding, but LKH has quite possibly one of the more ideal arrangements parenting-wise, so her constant harping on having to actually spend time with her daughter (diety forbid!) wears rapidly thin.

I badly want to believe that she is a good mother, she is, despite the vibes I get from her blog, for Trinity's sake. No one deserves to have an inattentive, resentful parent. I hope she's a great mom who loves her kid to death, and I hope that Jon's a terrific stepdad. I hope Trinity is happy and feels loved, despite being saddled with the name "Trinity" ('cause, seriously). But when LKH says stuff like this, I cringe a little inside.

[witchwillow.livejournal.com]

See, that's why I search for parallels in her writing. Because I do deal with an inattentive, self-absorbed, possibly border-line personality parent. So, I wonder about Trinity. I wonder a lot.

[freyalorelei.livejournal.com]

My own theory is Narcissistic Personality Disorder. No, seriously. Everything fits. She just doesn't seem self-destructive enough for BPD. Granted, armchair analysis, but I get the feeling she'd burn through friends and relatives a lot quicker if she had it. And her self-absorption is beyond the norm for BPD...they tend to be a lot more concerned with what others think of them, if only to keep them for emotional/financial/other forms of support. I think she honestly doesn't give a shit about other peoples' feelings.

...yay for amature psychoanalysis!