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I don't actually object to this advice. It's sensible. I've read it in a dozen or so "Advice to Writers" books.

No, the advice makes sense. It's Laurell's hypocrisy that bothers me, for she manifestly doesn't believe some of this and creatively interprets other bits.

Entry: Writing groups
Link: http://blog.laurellkhamilton.org/2008/07/writing-groups.html

We keep getting asked how to tell if a writing group is a good group.

Really? Who asks? Because according to a previous post of yours, you only recently went back to a writing group after three or four years away.

First, are people actually writing, or just talking about writing.

End a question with a question mark.

Talk is great, and if all you want to do is hang out with other people that want to talk about writing that’s fine, but be wary. Writers don’t just talk about writing; they write.

...says the woman who's been complaining since February about not being able to write a certain scene.

Second, sometimes it’s hard to be in a group if you write genre of any kind. A lot of writing groups are sort of snoppish.

I don't know if she means "snappish," "snobbish" or is trying to create a portmanteau word meaning both.

Any group that tells you that what you want to write is bad just because it’s horror, or science fiction, or romance, or mystery, or any other genre, is not the group for you. Don’t let anyone talk you out of what you know in your heart is what speaks to your muse. If the group doesn’t approve of your type of writing, then find a different group.

On the other hand, lots of groups specializing in genre writing exist, so finding a group that favors your kind of writing shouldn't be that hard.

Third, beware of sharks. Sharks are people that are just in the group to draw blood. They do nothing but criticize in the most vicious terms. They say they’re giving you constructive criticism and trying to help, but trust me, sharks are interested only in destruction and hurting. Some sharks throw off all pretense and begin to attack the writer personally, and not the writing. These are people that are only interested in causing you pain. Any group that tolerates people like this you do not want to be a part of.

Why, Lashers! I do believe she's talking about us!

Fourth, the group that only says good things. If you’ve written something good, then it’s nice to know, but no one is perfect, especially at the beginning. If you get nothing but praise then you can’t improve your writing, because you don’t have any feedback telling you what your weaknesses are.

So true. What a pity she doesn't honestly believe this.

But true constructive criticism is just that construtive. It contains solutions to help you fix things. It doesn’t just bitch at you.

This would be more credible if people had not been suggesting solutions for years--fewer sex scenes, more plot, an end to the ardeur, killing off or eliminating the excess characters. The problem is that Laurenita doesn't LIKE these solutions and considers them bitching. She doesn't seem to understand that just because she doesn't like something, that doesn't make the suggestion invalid.

Fifth, the dominant personality. Beware of a group where one, or two people, but usually one, does all the talking.

You mean like with you and your entourage?

They’re

Their.

opinion is the only one allowed, and their critique is the only one that counts. If anyone disagrees with them, they get shouted down, or humiliated until they give up on giving an opinion that is different from the dominant person.

Is she actually admitting that the troos are wrong?

Most of these people are just in the group to make themselves feel wonderful, usually at your expense, and they tend to have one, or two, members of the group that are simply there as their Greek chorus. A sort of, "Yes, Sophocles," thing. This group is crippled by their pet Sophocles, leave him and his chorus to their little stroke party and find a group that actually encourages opinions.

She IS talking about her forums!

This is advice that was hard won for me over the years from personal experience. I hope it helps some of you not have to go through what I endured before I found my own writing group, the Alternate Historians.

Here's their website: http://www.sff.net/people/marella/

We’ll be celebrating twenty years as a group. Between us all we have over forty books, and innumerable short stories published. Not bad for a group of people that hadn’t sold anything when we met. (The exception being Sharon Shinn, who had sold several books before she joined us. Our good fortune to have her with us.)

Shinn must have joined later than the others, then. The Alternate Historians were founded in 1988. Shinn got an award for best first fantasy novel in 1996. The book was The Shape-Changer's Wife.

Date: 2008-07-03 06:22 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] aine-de-danann.livejournal.com
"Don’t let anyone talk you out of what you know in your heart is what speaks to your muse."

Whar?

(That is the questioning grunt/noise this sentence has reduced me to making.)

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Date: 2008-07-03 06:40 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] suzycat.livejournal.com
"If everyone in your writing group says 'Laurell, this is really not working because of A B C', you can and should ignore them because you wuv it the way it is."

Date: 2008-07-03 06:26 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] cicipsychobunny.livejournal.com
[Their] opinion is the only one allowed, and their critique is the only one that counts. If anyone disagrees with them, they get shouted down, or humiliated until they give up on giving an opinion that is different from the dominant person.

Is she actually admitting that the troos are wrong?


Nope, I think she's still in a state of self-denial bliss. Because "shouting down" and driving away critical people is exactly what the forum rules are about.

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Date: 2008-07-03 06:41 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] daphne-gateau.livejournal.com
Third, beware of sharks.

Oh tis fun this blog of Laurell's. You know, I think she really wanted to type ...

Beware of [livejournal.com profile] sharkbytes.

Did someone stumble upon some snarkful recaps? I hope so.

Date: 2008-07-03 06:46 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] suzycat.livejournal.com
We keep getting asked about what we eat for breakfast. What is breakfast? Sometimes breakfast is just food, but other times it's the way you start your day. How do you know which it will be? The short answer is, you don't. You can get some inkling about it sometimes but other times you just can't tell whether this is the day the breakfast will be the way you start your day, or just food full of limitless possibility's you can't quite reach because of your twisted ankle trapping you at your desk. The only thing you can do is work through the pain and hope. But sometimes no matter how hard you work or chew it's just not going to be the right kind of food that you want. We're lucky to have Jon and Darla who will bring strawberries when we think we want strawberries and then change it to pancakes halfway to the store. Jon really understands how sometimes I can just change my mind and how crucial it is that my muse be fed even if what it wants is not what it thinks it wants. Anita should really eat breakfast more often.

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Date: 2008-07-03 07:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dominanefret.livejournal.com
But true constructive criticism is just that construtive.

I'm just amazed that Mrs. Comma Abusinator neglected to put a comma in such an obvious and very, very necessary place. It makes my brain itch.

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Date: 2008-07-03 07:21 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] contrariwise.livejournal.com
My favorite line: If you’ve written something good, then it’s nice to know, but no one is perfect, especially at the beginning. Of course, since our dear Laurell is no longer "at the beginning", she's now allowed to be perfect.

Date: 2008-07-03 08:20 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] easol.livejournal.com
Guys, we're famous! The person who (did not) invent the genre, (did not) write female sex scenes for the first time, and who is compared (by herself) to Angelina Jolie is slagging us off in her public blog!

Date: 2008-07-03 04:51 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] plum-arden.livejournal.com
What was the comparison to Angelina? Oh, man...

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Date: 2008-07-03 10:20 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] siedhr.livejournal.com
Her blog makes me think that she's never accepted constructive criticism in her life.
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Date: 2008-07-03 10:23 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] slayra.livejournal.com
You know even my mother thinks Laurell is a crazy middle-aged writer... how can these people in the group stand her? How can they not shake her by the shoulders and say "Wake up! Your writing is CRAP!"

Useless. That group is useless. I bet it doesn't do any of the things Laurell says are so important in groups. Like real, constructive criticism. :p

Oh, yay, it's so glad to finally see our work recognized! We be famous! ^___^
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Date: 2008-07-03 10:39 am (UTC)
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HOSHIT your icon is hilarious.

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Date: 2008-07-03 11:25 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amamelina.livejournal.com
Well, my mind exploded. Clean up, aisle five!

Any group that tells you that what you want to write is bad just because it’s horror, or science fiction, or romance, or mystery, or any other genre, is not the group for you. Don’t let anyone talk you out of what you know in your heart is what speaks to your muse. If the group doesn’t approve of your type of writing, then find a different group.

Ok, this remark reminded me of her familiar wank on the teacher that just didn't understand her and ran her genius out of the class. Remember that one? Also, I've belonged to writer's groups. Even it's not their genre, most people who are serious about writing will at least help with the grammer and plot line. I have a horror story I'm doing, and the best feedback I get are from the people who don't write the genre, because they're not hung on what a vampire or werewolf should be.

I think she's still sore about that teacher, or maybe her last writer's group was a wee bit too critical for poor Laurell.

Date: 2008-07-03 12:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] morriganscrow.livejournal.com
HA!! You got that up before me!

That stuck out like a sore thumb. I wonder who began the Alt.Historians? I wonder who was/is the dominating personality?

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Date: 2008-07-03 11:47 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] christraven.livejournal.com
Third, beware of sharks. Sharks are people that are just in the group to draw blood.

I wonder how many people that have actually tried to give constructive criticism have been accused of this very thing by Our Dear Laurita.

Any group that tells you that what you want to write is bad just because it’s horror, or science fiction, or romance, or mystery, or any other genre, is not the group for you.

This is surprisingly sound advice. I was pleasantly caught off guard by this, actually. Will wonders never cease? Of course, LKH can just use it as an excuse to continue writing bad fanfic Pr0n. "See? This is my MUSE talking! My Muse makes me write this! I is, creative artisty-type, who do not, listen to Teh Jelluz, Hayterz!"

Fourth, the group that only says good things.
Okay, admittedly, my knee-jerk reaction to this statement was "O, liek Jontoi And Duurrla?!!!11onety-one!!1!", but now I wonder. I'd really like to be a fly on the wall to see just how much nose-in-the-arse LKH's little entourage does, because this statement right here tells me either:

a) LKH is REEKING of hypocrisy, and statements like this are begging for someone to call her out on it, or
b) The Terrible Two actually throw in little one-shot "gimme" comments that actually sound like criticism, without actually being criticism.

Either way, LKH just opened a door nice and wide for people to spork her on this.

But true constructive criticism is just that construtive.
The grammar-stabby in this sentence makes the base of my brain itch.

::sigh:: At least the outrage gets me awake enough to where I don't need coffee this morning...
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Date: 2008-07-03 12:32 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] morriganscrow.livejournal.com
Yeah - nothing like a surge of RAGE-induced adrenalin to wake you up in the morning!

Date: 2008-07-03 04:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] x-trickster-x.livejournal.com
I just spent ten minutes staring at your icon and trying to figure out if it was actually moving.

And then I realised that it was staring right back at ME. DD=

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Date: 2008-07-03 01:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bubblefaerie.livejournal.com
"We keep getting asked how to tell if a writing group is a good group."

Who is this "we" she keeps referring to in her blogs? I can't imagine that anyone would be asking non-writers Jon and Darla for writing advice. I truly can't imagine anyone asking crap writer LKH for writing advice either.

Date: 2008-07-03 03:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bludflower.livejournal.com
Laurell and the hordes of imaginary "friends" whispering in her crazy little ear. Since LKH lets them do all the writing for her, I don't see we people don't just ask them and leave her the hell out of it.

On the other hand, Darla and Jon seem to think they're writers by association, so maybe.

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Date: 2008-07-03 02:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bludflower.livejournal.com
"First, are people actually writing, or just talking about writing." She made it a question. XD




Date: 2008-07-03 03:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tsubaki-ny.livejournal.com
Ha!

*bakes you cookies*

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Date: 2008-07-03 02:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] entropyastaroth.livejournal.com
I want to explain to LKH that just because someone is nasty doesn't mean they're wrong. I have a friend who gives truly nasty criticism, I rather avoid it if I can. But not all the time as it very insightful and on point as well. He just have a very snarky way of pointing it out. It just makes him unpleasant. Not wrong.

Date: 2008-07-03 03:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com
Yeah. My roommate is a talented folk/rock musician, and he has a friend who doesn't like his type of music. But the friend always gives honest and insightful criticism that others might not. My roommate sometimes gets his ego bruised, but he is always grateful and appreciative.

Date: 2008-07-03 03:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tsubaki-ny.livejournal.com
One of these author bios is not like the others.

http://www.sff.net/people/marella/



*twitch*

Date: 2008-07-03 03:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com
I bet -- totally BET -- that Laurita wrote her own bio there.

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Date: 2008-07-03 04:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] moonsinger.livejournal.com
Perhaps LKH is turning a new leaf and going to listen to constructive criticism that will make her work better. Admittedly, that would require a lot of listening, but I hope so.

Date: 2008-07-03 04:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] icecreamempress.livejournal.com
members of the group that are simply there as their Greek chorus. A sort of, "Yes, Sophocles," thing. This group is crippled by their pet Sophocles, leave him and his chorus to their little stroke party


SOCRATES! SOCRATES! SHE'S CONFUSED SOPHOCLES AND SOCRATES!


Oh, my sweet mother of Baal, what an IDIOT!


This is worse than Jason Pollock.

Date: 2008-07-03 04:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] siedhr.livejournal.com
I knew there was something wrong there. Good catch.

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Date: 2008-07-03 08:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kd-lalala.livejournal.com
Again I am reminded LKH is often in proximity of Sharon Shinn, and again I feel that little niggling of fear in the depths of my soul with LKH being in proximity of one of my favorite authors. What if what she has...mental, possession, whatEVER it is....is contagious??

Date: 2008-07-03 10:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] maladaptive.livejournal.com
That's not what a shark is. A shark is there to steal your work. That word has a meaning! And being wary of sharks is more important than being wary of sharks as LKH sees them.

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