Curious about this for awhile...

[saucyirishlass.livejournal.com]

It's been said in many places by different people that LKH's portrayal of the BDSM lifestyle is off. I know a bit more than just the basics - ah, the joys of reading - and can sort of inherently pick up that something isn't right with her depiction, but I can't really articulate it. I was just curious to hear from those who participate in the lifestyle, what they personally find offensive, frustrating, or just headdesk-worthy about LKH's portrayal. Perhaps they can help make it clearer to me why it feels amiss.

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[atypia.livejournal.com]

That's so it. That the dominant is actually the care-taker, they have to respect the submissive (whether it be by not going beyond their boundaries, or gently pushing their boundaries so that they can grow). Anita doesn't take care of her men. She doesn't respect their needs, wants and boundaries. She inflicts upon them her own needs, wants and boundaries and That Is The Law.